How do you build self-confidence?

On November 12, 2010, in Growth, by Michal

The most important thing to have as a woman is self-confidence! That’s at least what all the popular fashion programs and magazines say:

* If you want to stand out with your style, you have to be self-confident.

* You can’t be a Top Model without some great self-confidence.

* Successful women are self-confident. Period.

I don’t know about you, but I often feel far from confident. In fact, I feel self-conscious more often than not! I tend to over-analyze everything that I do and say and how I look. The result of my worries? I feel even worse!

Self-evaluation is good when it leads to improvement, but not when it leads to putting yourself down even more.

I think the whole focus on needing to have ‘self-confidence’ is wrong.

If we are really honest with ourselves, there is no way we can find confidence within us. Those people that do, are often prideful or just really good at faking it.

There is nothing inside of ourselves that can convince us that we are so amazing and great that we should have the best confidence ever. Confidence boosters almost always come from outside of ourselves.

The good news is that there is a better way to find confidence, and that is through the one who made you in the first place. To God you are beautifully made and he loves you no matter what! You can feel crappy about yourself, but God never does!

The way to grow in ‘confidence’ is not by trying to be self-confident, but by finding our confidence in God. Next time you feel crappy about yourself, it might help to read these verses:

For you have been my hope, Sovereign LORD, my confidence since my youth – Psalm 71:4-6 (NIV)

My heart is confident in you, O God;
my heart is confident.
No wonder I can sing your praises!
Wake up, my heart! – Psalm 57:6-8 (NLT)

… being confident of this, that he who began a good work in you will carry it on to completion until the day of Christ Jesus – Philippians 1:6 (NIV)


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