How do you deal with Loneliness?

On August 14, 2011, in Growth, by Michal

We all deal with feelings of loneliness from time to time.

You can be a room full of people, even people you love and adore, yet still feel lonely. Married people even tell me that they can sometimes feel lonely in a marriage.

What do you do with those feelings?

One of my favorite authors, Elisabeth Elliot gives the following advice:

> Be still and know that He is God
When you are lonely, too much stillness is exactly the thing that seems to be laying waste our soul. Use that stillness to quiet your heart before God. Get to know Him. If He is God, He is in charge.

> Remember that you are not alone
The LORD himself goes before you and will be with you; he will never leave you nor forsake you. Do not be afraid; do not be discouraged -Deut 31:8
Jesus promised: “I am always with you” (Matt 28:20)
Never mind if you cannot feel His presence. He is there, never for one moment forgetting you.

> Give thanks
In times of my greatest loneliness I have been lifted up by the promise of 2 Corinthains 4:17,18:
For our light and momentary troubles are achieving for us an eternal glory that far outweighs them all. So we fix our eyes not on what is seen, but on what is unseen, since what is seen is temporary, but what is unseen is eternal
This is something to thank God for. This loneliness itself, which seems a weight, will be far outweighed by glory

> Refuse self-pity
Refuse it absolutely. It is a deadly thing with power to destroy you. Turn your thoughts to Christ who has already carried your griefs and sorrows.

> Accept your loneliness
It is one stage, and only one stage, on a journey to bring you to God. It will not always last.

> Offer up your loneliness to God
Just as the little boy offered to Jesus his five loaves and two fishes in the Bible story, God can transform our offer of loneliness for the good of others.

> Do something for someone else
No matter who or where you are, there is something you can do, somebody who needs you. Pray that you may be an instrument of God’s peace, that where there is loneliness you may bring joy.

I hope this helps you on your journey! Plus, please know that you can always write to me!


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